So today is the fourth Sunday in Advent. And don’t we hear a lot about Mary at this time of year!
That’s no surprise, really; the fourth Sunday in Advent has always been the day when we take time to think about Mary, to take the time to think about when the Angel came to Mary to tell her that she was going to have a child, and to take the time to think about the nature of her response.
Sometimes, someone like me will stand at the front of the church and get one of the young people to pretend to be Mary, and another to pretend to be the Angel, and we’ll have a little drama where we play out the Angel’s message and Mary’s response.
But in the Gospel reading appointed for today, we also hear about Joseph’s response. Take a moment to read it now, from Matthew 1:18-25.
So Mary’s response to the Angel’s message, “I am the Lord’s servant, let it happen as you describe“, formed a vital part in how this story played out. And every time you see the Christmas story dramatised, you get that scene with the angel visiting Mary, and you see Mary’s response to the message. Famous composers have set her response to music. On Thursday night this week I watched a Christmas episode of “Family Guy”, where they were retelling the Christmas story, and as usual the angel visits Mary, and we get Mary’s response to the news: “I am the Lord’s servant, let it happen as you have said”.
But no-one ever talks about Joseph’s response. He learns that the young woman he’s intending to marry is going to have a baby, a baby that Joseph knows is nothing to do with him. And in those times, amongst that community, if he accuses Mary of adultery – of carrying on with another man – he knows that it will mean serious trouble for Mary. Possibly even death, according to the Law of Moses. Because Joseph is a good man, he decides he’s just going to call off the wedding quietly … and then he gets a message by way of a visit from an angel. And the angel tells him what’s going on, tells him he should marry Mary anyway … and Joseph goes on to do exactly what the Angel told him to do.
So Joseph’s response to the message from the Lord forms a vital part of how this story plays out. And most of the time, the struggle that Joseph had with this decision, and the message from the angel that visited him, and his response to that message, never makes it into the School Play, or the big 17th/18th century classical music number, or even the Christmas episode of some TV cartoon show.
Here’s the thing: it’s not just Mary and Joseph, every person in the Gospel narrative makes a difference to how that story plays out, and while some of those scenes get retold again and again and again, some of those scenes never see the light of day again.
And God has a plan for every one of us, without exception, whether anyone else gets to hear about it or not. God has a plan for me, and God has a plan for you. So when some message from God comes your way, when you discover what God’s plan for you might be, then remember that Mary and Joseph were ordinary people, just like you and me, and remember that they both made themselves freely available for God’s plan.
See, Joseph has a plan. He’s an ordinary chap, so it’s an ordinary plan. There’s this young woman who’s engaged to him, and no doubt he’s thinking about how they’re going to get married, settle down, maybe one day have a family. He’s a good man, it’s a good plan.
But then Mary comes to him and tells him that she’s going to have a baby. And Joseph knows the Law of Moses, because he lives amongst a people who are faithful to that law. And in Leviticus 20, it says that the punishment for adultery is death. That certainly isn’t part of Joseph’s plan!
But Matthew tells us that “Joseph was a good man and did not want to embarrass Mary in front of everyone, so he decided to call off the wedding, quietly.” And, quietly, Joseph’s plan, and life, and future, would have fallen apart, just as comprehensively as Mary’s would have done. He’s attempting damage limitation, but anything he might do is still going to destroy any plans he may have made.
And then an angel from the Lord comes to him, and tells him of God’s wonderful plan. “The baby that Mary will have is from the Holy Spirit”, it says, “go ahead and marry her.”
And then Joseph, who has been completely lost within this appalling choice that he’s been faced with, does exactly what the angel from the Lord tells him to do. And although his own plans have fallen apart, he thereby becomes part of God’s plan for his creation. His pride, and his pain, and his shame, and the potential shame and pain for Mary, have been swallowed up in the freedom that the Lord offers.
Would that we could swallow up our pride and pain and shame in God’s freedom too!
There’s another reading appointed for today, from one of Paul’s letters. Take a moment now to read Romans 1:1-7.
“Jesus chose me,” says Paul, “so that people of all nations would obey and have faith.” Joseph obeyed and had faith, having been chosen alongside Mary as parents of Christ. And Paul continues, to say “you are some of those people chosen by Jesus Christ. […] God loves you, and has chosen you to be his very own people.”
Do you remember what I said earlier? God has a plan for every one of us. God has a plan for me, and God has a plan for you. And I can’t tell you what God’s plan for you is, I can’t tell you whether it’ll fit in with your own plans or not, I can’t tell you how you might learn of it. There’s no way of knowing. And of course I can’t guarantee for you a visit from one of his angels in a dream like Joseph had, and I certainly can’t offer you an experience to parallel the one that Paul had on the road to Damascus. I can’t even tell you when you’ll find out.
But when, like Joseph, you can see that the future you thought you were building is being torn apart, when you can see pride and shame battling to destroy your world … and 2016 has not been a good year for the world, there are many ways in which the world we’ve been trying to build is being torn apart. When, like Joseph, you can see that the future you thought you were building is being torn apart, when you can see pride and shame battling to destroy your world, when the only plan you have is an attempt at damage limitation, then the best thing you can do to restore your life is to recognise that God has a plan for you, to accept that God longs to take away your fear and pain and shame, and your pride, and allow him to replace them all with his salvation.